The 1st Month– Getting Over the Learning Curve

Dear Alex,

Happy 1 month birthday! I can’t believe a month has gone by already since you were born. I am celebrating by packing up your newborn-sized clothes (already!) and reflecting back on some of the things I’ve observed this past month as a first time parent:

  1. No amount of warning or explanation from others can truly prepare you for how hard parenting a newborn is until you’re in the thick of it yourself. I’ve never been so constantly challenged on so many levels (physically, emotionally, etc) for such a long period of time before. I always thought people were joking about the struggle to stay sane when you’re caring for a newborn…. boy, was I wrong.
  2. A baby’s bare bottom should be treated like a loaded gun– don’t point it towards anything you don’t want to get shot. Same goes for baby penises.
  3. Thank God for grandparents. Seriously. Don’t know what we would’ve done without them this first month! Along these same lines– how the heck do single parents do it?!?!
  4. For some reason, when people see or hear that you have a baby they feel the need to give you “advice” on all sorts of things. And you hear conflicting advice from everyone… even two pediatricians have given me wildly different opinions on something.
  5. Considering how much you love your pacifier, it’s amazing how good you are at spitting and/or flinging it across the room… every. two. minutes.
  6. A full night’s sleep, using the toilet whenever you want to, and personal hygiene are glorious luxuries that non-parents take for granted.
  7. I grossly underestimated the importance of investing in a good baby carrier– wearing you makes it SO MUCH easier to calm you down quickly, get things done around the house, and prevent creepy strangers from trying to touch you when we’re out & about (it is flu season, after all).
  8. So glad we learned about the 5 S’s from “Happiest Baby on the Block” … and that we got easy-swaddle blankets. I shudder to imagine how much MORE you’d be crying if we hadn’t!
  9. Snaps are second only to buttons as the most annoying, frustrating things to deal with when dressing a baby. WHY don’t they make more baby clothes with zippers and velcro?!
  10. Papa told me not long after you were born that “parenting is just winging it.” Truer words were never spoken. The problem with winging it is that you’re constantly doubting yourself. I hope you know that we’re trying our best! My apologies in advance for what are sure to be many, many screw-ups.

I think that’s enough for now, although I’m sure if I sat here some more I could come up with many others… every day is a new adventure, and honestly I am learning just as much from you as you are from me. At this point I wouldn’t say that it has been FUN perse (there is a song by Darius Rucker called “It Won’t Be Like This For Long” that has become my mantra, haha)… but it has been rewarding. Sort of. And even when you’re being a HUGE pain in ass, which at this stage is most of the time….. Lord help me, I love you.


All my love (plus all my blood, sweat, tears and sanity),

1 thought on “The 1st Month– Getting Over the Learning Curve

  1. You’ll do fine!! All three of you/ Just know that EVERY parent goes through this! As long as there is love everything else will fall into place. ❤

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